Hi there and thanks for stopping by to check out this edition of my blog. As I was walking to my WiFi spot thinking of what I have a need to rant about today, I came across a very sticky and complicated subject.
Cheating on your loved one.
When broaching this subject in this day in age, everyone has a different perspective on the term and act of. What constitutes cheating?
The dictionary has the following pertaining to the subject:
Cheating:
To be sexually unfaithful."his wife was cheating on him"synonyms:commit adultery, be unfaithful, stray; two-time, play around; archaiccuckold "it's not the first time her husband has cheated" informal
The URBAN Dictionary has their take on the word:
Cheating When one person has a significant other and performs any type of intimate acts with another person.
Having been a person who has unfortunately been in relationships where my partners have either committed the act of being sexually unfaithful but also mentally intimate with others while in a relationship with me, I have a low tolerance for the act. Now granted I am stating my opinion and of course everyone has their right to their opinion and of course there are circumstances that outweigh what others may think. For example if someone is in a physically abusive relationship that they cannot seen to be released from and find mental condolences with another, would this constitute as cheating?
I am having a tough time with this subject because I have found myself in a very complicated situation. Not knowing where to go from here I think writing my thoughts may hopefully help me come to some sort of a conclusion on to how to move forward. Otherwise it may just eat away at the inner nooks and crannies of my brain and that won't do now will it?
So being the Tom-Boy that I have come to love and own that I am, I don't have too many gal-pals. So this blog will have to do! I find myself being stuck in a bubble. So please bear with me as I am not writing to be facetious, but maybe someone out there has a word of advice for this Blondesheep.
Here's the situation:
Friend A is someone I have come to love and respect in my time home. I sympathize with A's situation and try to give my advice whenever I can. However over the past few months I have started to loose that respect for A. I happen to know A's significant other which we will call B. Knowing that everyone has their problems, situations and how hard relationships can be, I sympathize with both parties although I am "closer" with A. However, it became apparent that A was abusing the situation for convenience. No matter how much I tried to give advice or help to remove A from her situation it was becoming clear that the convenience outweighed all else. Now let me state that in my 30 some years I can honestly admit that I stayed in a relationship or situations out of convenience. I am not proud of this, but this is the reality. Now that I am older, I know better for myself. I will never judge anyone for their choices, as an outsider we will never know the whole entire story.
So when watching A purposefully placing themselves as a Single person in social situations, I became very uncomfortable. Should I have a conversation with A? What would I say? I value A's friendship but feel as though it is unfair to B to stand by and feel like an accomplice in the act.
Should I completely not say anything to anyone although it's eating away at me? I looked up to A when I first met them. I like finding role models who encourage me and push me to be a better person however I am distraught. I hope every day that A can make things work with B, but I feel a healthy break may be in order. Some time apart to sort things through and realize what is the true priority of the relationship. Simple acts of near cheating or cheating can only come back to haunt your partner and yourself.
I'm going to give it some time before I reconnect with A and see where the current relationship status is at. I feel confident that I can be honest in my thoughts and feelings. Friendships like relationships aren't easy. But in both instances I feel honesty is important, if not the most important.
So if anyone has any advice or a story they would like to share, please comment or message me. I sure could use the help. Thanks to everyone who keeps this blog going and I wish you a very beautiful day. Be safe in your travels and if you have a chance to do something out of the blue for someone, give it a go. They may need the gesture more than you can imagine.
Cheers and Decisions,
Blondesheep
Cheating on your loved one.
When broaching this subject in this day in age, everyone has a different perspective on the term and act of. What constitutes cheating?
The dictionary has the following pertaining to the subject:
Cheating:
To be sexually unfaithful."his wife was cheating on him"synonyms:commit adultery, be unfaithful, stray; two-time, play around; archaiccuckold "it's not the first time her husband has cheated" informal
The URBAN Dictionary has their take on the word:
Cheating When one person has a significant other and performs any type of intimate acts with another person.
Having been a person who has unfortunately been in relationships where my partners have either committed the act of being sexually unfaithful but also mentally intimate with others while in a relationship with me, I have a low tolerance for the act. Now granted I am stating my opinion and of course everyone has their right to their opinion and of course there are circumstances that outweigh what others may think. For example if someone is in a physically abusive relationship that they cannot seen to be released from and find mental condolences with another, would this constitute as cheating?
I am having a tough time with this subject because I have found myself in a very complicated situation. Not knowing where to go from here I think writing my thoughts may hopefully help me come to some sort of a conclusion on to how to move forward. Otherwise it may just eat away at the inner nooks and crannies of my brain and that won't do now will it?
So being the Tom-Boy that I have come to love and own that I am, I don't have too many gal-pals. So this blog will have to do! I find myself being stuck in a bubble. So please bear with me as I am not writing to be facetious, but maybe someone out there has a word of advice for this Blondesheep.
Here's the situation:
Friend A is someone I have come to love and respect in my time home. I sympathize with A's situation and try to give my advice whenever I can. However over the past few months I have started to loose that respect for A. I happen to know A's significant other which we will call B. Knowing that everyone has their problems, situations and how hard relationships can be, I sympathize with both parties although I am "closer" with A. However, it became apparent that A was abusing the situation for convenience. No matter how much I tried to give advice or help to remove A from her situation it was becoming clear that the convenience outweighed all else. Now let me state that in my 30 some years I can honestly admit that I stayed in a relationship or situations out of convenience. I am not proud of this, but this is the reality. Now that I am older, I know better for myself. I will never judge anyone for their choices, as an outsider we will never know the whole entire story.
So when watching A purposefully placing themselves as a Single person in social situations, I became very uncomfortable. Should I have a conversation with A? What would I say? I value A's friendship but feel as though it is unfair to B to stand by and feel like an accomplice in the act.
Should I completely not say anything to anyone although it's eating away at me? I looked up to A when I first met them. I like finding role models who encourage me and push me to be a better person however I am distraught. I hope every day that A can make things work with B, but I feel a healthy break may be in order. Some time apart to sort things through and realize what is the true priority of the relationship. Simple acts of near cheating or cheating can only come back to haunt your partner and yourself.
I'm going to give it some time before I reconnect with A and see where the current relationship status is at. I feel confident that I can be honest in my thoughts and feelings. Friendships like relationships aren't easy. But in both instances I feel honesty is important, if not the most important.
So if anyone has any advice or a story they would like to share, please comment or message me. I sure could use the help. Thanks to everyone who keeps this blog going and I wish you a very beautiful day. Be safe in your travels and if you have a chance to do something out of the blue for someone, give it a go. They may need the gesture more than you can imagine.
Cheers and Decisions,
Blondesheep