Dating is no joke when you cross the ropes of 30. In 2015 there is no handbook to finding love or as I like to say... Finding someone to spend a sufficient amount of time with. In LA there was always someone better on the other side of the fence, and that went both ways. On the East Coast when I was in my 20's it was settling for what was expected. Now in life after the 30 mark, you tend to start a checklist. Or maybe in better words you have been adding and subtracting from this checklist ever since you realized you would enjoy a partner in your life. This checklist of sorts has matured over the years from physical attributes and hobbies to real-life-no-compromises. These would include children, faith, marriage, monogamy, vices, career, stability and life goals in general. But we compromise... well maybe not compromise on certain issues but when you fall for someone you become blind to the fact that they chew with their mouth open and now maybe having a child becomes an option when in the first place you couldn't keep a plant alive. Now I am in deed on a rant.
So how does one come across a partner? We all know the many ways from being set up to casually meetings someone at a bar. But when those options become unattractive, this seemingly easy and ego safe world presents itself. You click www...... create a profile, choose a photo and BAM.... you are entered into the inner webs of a network of people looking for the same things as you. Or are you?
I've had the blessing of meeting many people in my journey so far and have talked a lot about the world of online dating, Heck, I even did a stint with badonlinedating.com... literally laughed out loud and found this outtake clip on YouTube... Don't judge haha.
So how does one come across a partner? We all know the many ways from being set up to casually meetings someone at a bar. But when those options become unattractive, this seemingly easy and ego safe world presents itself. You click www...... create a profile, choose a photo and BAM.... you are entered into the inner webs of a network of people looking for the same things as you. Or are you?
I've had the blessing of meeting many people in my journey so far and have talked a lot about the world of online dating, Heck, I even did a stint with badonlinedating.com... literally laughed out loud and found this outtake clip on YouTube... Don't judge haha.
Okay stop making fun lol. And yes, I had some major bangs at one point. So, back to the topic at hand. The online dating world. I do have to say if you dare create a profile, you need to be strong. Be ready for over-exceptance, rejection, scams, possibilities and crudeness. I have come across couples who met and married (even in LA) through online sites like Plenty of Fish and Match.com. I congratulate those couples because they were honest and able to see through the smoke and mirrors.
In my own experience I have to admit that I'm glad to have tried it in my life. But beware, if you are fishing the internet on a smartphone, it can become as addicting as Candycrush. You look at who has seen your page, how many messages you have gotten, if the other person has responded... Yet ... or how you could possibly juggle this many dates on Saturday night. What if you actually like one of these options? And then there is the... we've been chatting for months now, when are we finally going to meet and are you actually going to look like your pictures, and will it even matter because over this WiFi you are the perfect match for me even if you end up being the complete opposite of my attraction expectations.
I caught myself agreeing to meet in a public place just to see if this person really could get away with acting so cocky and abnormal that it in some way shape or form gave them a superpower to pick up chicks. I guess it's the curious writer in me. If you don't "Do" then one shall never know first hand and you can't always trust what you Google.
In my only a handful of experiences with actually meeting people from the online world, I ended up with a good dear friend of mine, a laugh out loud joke of a human, a great conversation, a date that lasted 3 months and a date that I recanted over Thanksgiving dinner that left the room laughing in tears. Overall I can say in my own personal experience that I can be ever so thankful for the friend I have found and will hold that dear.
Now as far as online dating here on the East Coast, my sister warns me that unless I want to date the local trash guy or an unemployed cowbell player, to stay away, Lol, you never know, Cowbells could be the next fad.
In closing I will leave you with this. If you are thinking about entering the unexpected world of dating online, be prepared to be surprised and appalled and possibly find love where you least thought possible. Funnier things have happened.
And of course, I'll leave you with another video from my younger years.
Be blessed, love unconditionally and don't forget to appreciate the roses,
Blondesheep
In my own experience I have to admit that I'm glad to have tried it in my life. But beware, if you are fishing the internet on a smartphone, it can become as addicting as Candycrush. You look at who has seen your page, how many messages you have gotten, if the other person has responded... Yet ... or how you could possibly juggle this many dates on Saturday night. What if you actually like one of these options? And then there is the... we've been chatting for months now, when are we finally going to meet and are you actually going to look like your pictures, and will it even matter because over this WiFi you are the perfect match for me even if you end up being the complete opposite of my attraction expectations.
I caught myself agreeing to meet in a public place just to see if this person really could get away with acting so cocky and abnormal that it in some way shape or form gave them a superpower to pick up chicks. I guess it's the curious writer in me. If you don't "Do" then one shall never know first hand and you can't always trust what you Google.
In my only a handful of experiences with actually meeting people from the online world, I ended up with a good dear friend of mine, a laugh out loud joke of a human, a great conversation, a date that lasted 3 months and a date that I recanted over Thanksgiving dinner that left the room laughing in tears. Overall I can say in my own personal experience that I can be ever so thankful for the friend I have found and will hold that dear.
Now as far as online dating here on the East Coast, my sister warns me that unless I want to date the local trash guy or an unemployed cowbell player, to stay away, Lol, you never know, Cowbells could be the next fad.
In closing I will leave you with this. If you are thinking about entering the unexpected world of dating online, be prepared to be surprised and appalled and possibly find love where you least thought possible. Funnier things have happened.
And of course, I'll leave you with another video from my younger years.
Be blessed, love unconditionally and don't forget to appreciate the roses,
Blondesheep